All Summer16

The Summer of 2016 started off with a bang in more ways than one.

April left us reeling from the death of Prince. And, the May offered no condolences, dealing blow after blow, in no particular order but each one equally horrendous:

A shooter killed more than 40 people and injured even more at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida.


Actor and activist Jesse Williams gave a riveting speech at the BET awards that was so relevant, it prompted some to petition for him to be fired from his job on the hit TV Drama Grey’s Anatomy.


The nation learned that the #FreddieGray trials were resulting in no convictions against the law enforcement officers that were involved in his arrest; the arrest that resulted in his death which was subsequently ruled a homicide. The lack of convictions was just the continuation of many shocking results of the matter as the remaining charges were dropped against the other officers who where involved.


The bones of the #SandraBland case continue to fall from the closet after her death was ruled a suicide last year. Officer Michael Kelley has recently admitted that he was warned not to speak out about some very important facts regarding Sandra Bland’s case. He also revealed that his career was threatened and was told that he would face repercussions if he spoke to Bland’s family attorney.


We also learned–that police officer Eric Casebolt of McKinney Texas would not face assault charges for his behavior towards a 15 year old teen at a pool party in June of 2015. Officer Eric Casebolt was recorded behaving recklessly while responding to a disturbance at the pool party. He is seen waving his weapon around at the crowd of people and then slamming a black teenager to the ground while subduing her with his knee in her back under his body weight.


During a protest in response to the continued racial tensions and police brutality across the nation in Dallas, Texas, a man opened fire on police officers killing 5 and wounding others, including a protester. A brief standoff ensued however it was quickly ended when the suspect was disarmed and killed by an explosive detonation by Dallas SWAT. The media was intent on blaming the outcome of the protest on the #BlackLivesMatter movement while ignoring the very reason someone saw fit that such a movement needed to take place.


As a Dallas native I can say this was very much so a sad, horrific, and tense time. My twitter feed was on fire, the text messages wouldn’t stop coming, and my spirit was on the ropes.

Trying not to give in to my emotions, I left for work the following morning with an intent to maintain a silent protest in hopes that I would be able to get through the day with my office door closed while never speaking a word of the incident to my coworkers. I wanted to just close off and lament the catalyst that started it all: the unresponsiveness of State and Federal Government in cases involving blatant police brutality, racism, and racial profiling. Not to mention the casual feigns of ignorance when it comes to identifying #whiteprivledge

No less than 30 days after the shooting involving Dallas Police officers, two black men #AltonSterling and #PhilandoCastilewere were shot and killed (roughly 24 hours apart) by police in Baton Rouge, Louisiana and St Anthony, Minnesota.



Needless to say, the pattern is more than obvious but the powers that be seem to be blind and deaf. As both are being argued as legal, justified, as well as preventable.

To make an already outrageous and genocide-eque situation worse, another black man, Charles Kinsley was shot by police in Florida while unarmed, with his hands up.


For my entire life, as long as I can remember, Black People have been fighting to receive equality of the most basic means and this struggle has only gotten more intense, more severe, more life threatening, more bloody, and has encouraged groups on either side to rise up their bands to do something about it.

The Black Community has responded with strategic action plans that have gotten the attention of celebrities and professional athletes and resulted in thousands of groups forming to promote and influence change in their communities.

Social media has been flooded with black posters sharing their ideas on resolving the issues and affecting change. There have even been suggestions of boycotts, all black market co-operatives, legal action committees, protests against specific businesses and politicians, and well as the encouragement of more black to exercise their constitutional right to bear arms to protect themselves and their homes.

To paraphrase a quote by one of my favorite singers, Sam Cooke. A Chang Has Come…






Domestic Violence (Self Love and Respect): Is it the remedy?

My lover and best friend says “it can be modeled and taught that way, show an example of what it is”. I had previously asked, “do you think self love and respect can be taught?” Im pondering this on the heels of seeing the video and response of Ray Rice and his wife and thereafter learning of an acquaintance that was recently involved in a violent episode with her boyfriend. This lead to me thinking about why some women allow themselves to be abused. This lead to me concluding that some women do not see themselves worthy of love and respect. They don’t have it for themselves and therefore don’t require it of others. So…back to square one…how do we teach our girls that they should love and respect themselves? They deserve it and should require it from anyone who plans to be a part of their lives. No one, man or woman should be subjected to abuse of any kind. Unfortunately by way of the world, women are more victimized by domestic violence than men. For a litany of reasons women will remain in the home continuously enduring the abuse. Many of these reasons are legitimate reasons. Most of them require the root remedy: A woman who loves herself, respects herself, and values her life and those around her will not remain. She knows that this is a detriment; she knows how it will eventually end; she knows it will take courage and strength that she must muster up; she knows that it wont be easy; she knows that it must be done.
More importantly…how do we teach our young men and women to avoid these types of toxic relationships altogether. No man should be with any woman that he needs to beat into submission and no woman needs to be that woman. How do we teach our young ones as they are growing into adults that these are not the relationships of success and enrichment? These are not the counterparts that you want to spend your lives with.
How do we teach them that both of their lives are valuable and worthy? How to we teach them that they are not to be abusers nor abused?
How did I learn it? My mother was married to my sisters farther for roughly 8 years to my knowledge. The boldest memory I have is my mother telling me he drove a car through a park chasing her and possibly my sister as well attempting to run them over. She never said much about the abuse and bullying but there were more stories. I still have her divorce decree dated 1981. The year I was born. My other a light, bright, damn near white and could pass for European woman was a fighter and 1 of 11 girls of 15 children total. Our family has seen its share of domestic disputes gone wrong and awry but what made me a fighter? My mother was a fighter. Ive seen her fight back, and we have fought together. LOL. My mother was classy and intelligent. She loved herself and everyone knew it. She didn’t tolerate disrespectful children and she rejected it from anyone else. I knew how to use my words and my strength because I saw her do it. I wasn’t afraid because she wasn’t afraid. And maybe some of that is genetic. But largely…the aforementioned holds some truth…“it can be modeled and taught that way, show an example of what it is”